Thursday, June 30

The Phone...

Our phones, our lifelines, literally!
The phone is like a second skin to some people, the thought of not having it on their person is incomprehensible and unacceptable. 
It is unbelievable to think we were without this device a few short years ago.

Sadly, only a few people have an ongoing battle with the phone as the center of their lives. I am doing my best not to be too attached. Again that is easy to do because I work with someone who is understanding; it is okay to forget the phone at home, and not move heaven and earth to get it on account of work. It is also okay to have it off and be unreachable sometimes.

We cannot afford to lose the human touch, physical relationships and our connection to the real world. But that is what is happening! We forget to call and speak with people on their birthdays and anniversaries. As long as we send a BBM/Whatsapp, Facebook message, put up photos as our display pictures, that suffices. 

This torrid affair doesn’t stop even when we are with other people socially! Oh, it is worse when we are alone at events. We dive into the phone when we are bored, alone, shy, embarrassed or just don’t want to talk to other people. Sometimes we pretend to be on a call (Oh, I do that too) just so we are not forced to confront ‘aloneness’ at events, or be forced to speak to other people. I keep wondering, what did we do when we didn’t have this 'life companion?'


So one of the things I am learning to do is put it out of sight when I am with people. And if I end up alone at an event, I try not to make it my +1, but try to create an interest in the event or the goings-on, generally try to be ‘normal’ and actually initiate a conversation with the next person, that is, if they are not engrossed with their own phones!

Now I also put the phone away when I am driving since I almost ran into the car in front of me because I was trying to take a call a few weeks ago. The after-effect of that near-miss is not something I wish to experience ever again. Imagine if it weren’t a near-miss...

As people do ‘get away’ to de-stress and reboot, learning to consciously stay away from the phone is a habit that needs to be cultivated. I give advance notice to all my stakeholders, and off goes the phone, for an hour or two, or a day etc. You will be surprised that there will be no fire, and no one would have died on account of the fact that you were unreachable. That should teach us to think we are indispensable.

Think about it in another way, you would have had time to do other things that doesn’t involve the phone. And if, even then you find that you actually have no life outside of it, perhaps it is time to create something worthwhile?

Be free oh!



Photo credits: Google Images

Wednesday, May 4

....then, do Something

As some of you know, I follow Emily P. Freeman of Chatting at the Sky. Emily has this slot on her blog posts where once a month she writes on 'What I learned Last month' and invites all and sundry to share. I confess that laziness kept me from putting my thoughts on there...but let me share it here with you. Very simple. Teeny tot...

Recently, I learned that though I should pray about everything (and I like to add 'no matter how small'), I really must go a step further by adding works to faith - 'faith without works is dead' and all, you know? For more than a decade, I have had to put up with this painless 'infection' on my toenails, one worse than the other. It appears as two straight tear down one nail, and no matter how fast they grow, they tear off and look really unsightly. (The automatic thing to do here would be to upload a before/after photo, but, I doubt you want to see a picture of my toes!)

Now, the strange thing was that it never occurred to me to seek treatment for this problem. I prayed about it. Yeeesss...I prayed...and prayed, and watched the problem persist...then prayed some more. I never researched the problem, never thought to seek medical help, never discussed it with anyone, nothing, just moaned and prayed.
Then one day, my sister and I saw an advert for the treatment of toenails, we looked at each other in wonder and decided to try it out. 


To cut a long story short, I cannot believe the transformation and repair of my toenails in two short weeks! Then I got upset with myself. How is it we are so ignorant and suffer needlessly? The fact is that we have all that we need to resolve a problem, if only we would wake up to the fact. I didn't have to have suffered through the displeasure of a less-than-perfect toenail for so long. God is never going to show up in person to solve our problems. Pray, YES, but He has given us brains to think, and tools with which to work things out, but He blesses those steps as we take them. That is my own understanding, again. 

Lest I bore you with long readings, this is about my toenails, but then again it is not. Whatever it is you are obsessing about, perhaps its time to have a chat, perform a Google search, take some simple practical step, and then all will be well with you and the world!

Be free oh.