Tuesday, September 20

When all is said and done!

I don’t get why we feel that nothing can happen because we have done all we can or need to do to cover all bases. However, the thing about life, which we all know, but which still confounds us when it happens is, anything can happen. The forces do sometimes conspire to remind us that we cannot always be in control of everything.

So, a few days ago all the operating systems in my house shut down. Completely. I arrived home after a tiring journey to find that there is no power, the inverter, generator, cable TV, internet, everything had shutdown. I could not recall that ever happening.

I had two choices: lose control at why this should be happening now, or take it in my stride and accept that it is one of those things that I can do nothing about at that moment and go to sleep. It was difficult, but I chose the second option.

But I learned a few lessons. One, no matter how much insurance I have in place, systems do fail. Secondly, the way I react in the face of that failure is purely my choice. Negative energy depletes, remaining positive helps me able to take a step back and re-strategize. And thirdly, while a bad experience might not leave me totally unscathed, I would have learned something, one way or the other. The way we react in the face of the small is a reflection of our reaction when the big things happen. With so much happening in the larger world, why sweat the ‘small’ things?

After all, what guarantee do we have in life? According to Joel Osteen 'you can’t control everything around you. Be your best and trust God to take care of the rest.' 

I vote we rest and be free oh!

Thursday, June 30

The Phone...

Our phones, our lifelines, literally!
The phone is like a second skin to some people, the thought of not having it on their person is incomprehensible and unacceptable. 
It is unbelievable to think we were without this device a few short years ago.

Sadly, only a few people have an ongoing battle with the phone as the center of their lives. I am doing my best not to be too attached. Again that is easy to do because I work with someone who is understanding; it is okay to forget the phone at home, and not move heaven and earth to get it on account of work. It is also okay to have it off and be unreachable sometimes.

We cannot afford to lose the human touch, physical relationships and our connection to the real world. But that is what is happening! We forget to call and speak with people on their birthdays and anniversaries. As long as we send a BBM/Whatsapp, Facebook message, put up photos as our display pictures, that suffices. 

This torrid affair doesn’t stop even when we are with other people socially! Oh, it is worse when we are alone at events. We dive into the phone when we are bored, alone, shy, embarrassed or just don’t want to talk to other people. Sometimes we pretend to be on a call (Oh, I do that too) just so we are not forced to confront ‘aloneness’ at events, or be forced to speak to other people. I keep wondering, what did we do when we didn’t have this 'life companion?'

So one of the things I am learning to do is put it out of sight when I am with people. And if I end up alone at an event, I try not to make it my +1, but try to create an interest in the event or the goings-on, generally try to be ‘normal’ and actually initiate a conversation with the next person, that is, if they are not engrossed with their own phones!

Now I also put the phone away when I am driving since I almost ran into the car in front of me because I was trying to take a call a few weeks ago. The after-effect of that near-miss is not something I wish to experience ever again. Imagine if it weren’t a near-miss...

As people do ‘get away’ to de-stress and reboot, learning to consciously stay away from the phone is a habit that needs to be cultivated. I give advance notice to all my stakeholders, and off goes the phone, for an hour or two, or a day etc. You will be surprised that there will be no fire, and no one would have died on account of the fact that you were unreachable. That should teach us to think we are indispensable.

Think about it in another way, you would have had time to do other things that doesn’t involve the phone. And if, even then you find that you actually have no life outside of it, perhaps it is time to create something worthwhile?

Be free oh!

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