Is the counsel we hear and read all the time. They tell you that the only way to be happy is to 'be yourself' because trying to please everyone all the time is a recipe for disaster. If only it were easier done than said!
If you are the type who always give in mostly 'for the sake of peace,' How is that working for you? I would be unhappy most of the time.
I vividly recall two occasions when I am (now) grateful that I did not give in to the need to be ashamed enough to have said yes just to please the other party; if I had done, I certainly would not be here today, blogging for you to read! My life would be inconspicuous, a sad and ordinary little person with no dreams, no story, stuck in other people’s expectation for me, probably a small-time, very miserable teacher in a remote village!
At one point there was a great pressure to work and help family…I knew it was a bad idea...I mean, I had plans; a dream, a future…I wanted to go to the University, and I wanted to have a Masters’ degree immediately after. But, family needed help! Work for a while, then continue school later…it was far from tempting, I did not want to do it because I knew I would be in so deep it would be difficult to extricate myself and go on with the life I dreamed for me, so I said no, sorry.
There was also this time when I offended someone I greatly respected because I said no to a reconciliation that I knew would be bad for me. I would have been stuck in a marriage the thoughts of which, even now, leave me with goose bumps.
There are times when we take a decision that leaves our heart thumping, afraid we may have made a mistake, but I think it is better to jump, realize that you possibly shouldn't have jumped, then humbly take steps to correct the jump, than not to have attempted to jump at all, because you want to please someone else.
I am not advocating that we be stubborn mules just for the sake of it, but to know what you want and to be able to defend it. I say being predictable sometimes is not such a bad thing. Be yourself for the right reasons and in the right circumstance.
Love God, love yourself, love people; have no regrets.
Be free oh.